It’s a question we all ask as we try to decipher our troubled marriages: Should I stay or should I go?
I remember when I was pondering this question as my wife and I were having so many problems. At the time, we were reading Dr. Phil’s Book Relationship Rescue together. As I recently read that Dr. Phil may be getting a divorce, I had a slight chuckle at all the pain he caused me in going through his book!
Dr. Phil’s book is a long book with many exercises that you need to go through with your spouse or your girlfriend. Since things did not work out between myself and my x, I view Relationship Rescue as both a blessing and a curse: It was a blessing because I learned that I was in a relationship that could not work. And it was a curse because I spent so much time to figure out that it would not work.
Sometimes, answers are more simple. I am reminded of a quote I once learned: “For complex problems, the simplest answer is the best.”
As I think of the labor my x and I spent with Relationship Rescue, I wonder if we would not have been better off with Should You Stay or Should You Go? by Susie and Otto Collins.
Of course, who can hear this title without thinking of the Clash: “Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?”
Susie and Otto sent me a copy of their book Should You Stay, Should You Go long after I had started this website, long after I had gone through my divorce, and long after I had spent hours doing Relationship Rescue exercises with my x-wife.
I liked the straightforwardness of their ideas and I wish that I had a copy of this book when I was going through the problems with my x-wife-it would have saved me literally hundreds of hours and probably led me to the same solution-I should go!-much quicker.
They also provide many extra resources with Should I Stay, Should I Go including Creating Relationship Magic, 6 Keys to Healing after Leaving a Painful Relationship, Love Lessons, 7 Keys to Creating A Great Relationship, and much more.
It’s well worth the price of admission. So if you are trying to rescue your relationship, you might just want to ask one simple question: Should I Stay Or Should I Go?